Only one awake is Miss K. She's been full of energy this morning, challenging my relaxing morning routine.
I mentioned before, I believe that I have been taking an online training seminar on FASD. I have been learning a lot, feeling more "normal" and supported through the training & the private Facebook page that gives a new safe common ground to learn & share with other FASD parents around the world.
If you are curious. Here is the website I for the seminar. FASD Forever. Jeff also has a Facebook page that is easy to follow for information and daily reminders and encouragement (for anyone)
Quickly, a couple of strong points I have learned about Kiahna's FASD recently.
One, it is very common for children with FASD to also have attachment issues. It is very common for them to be in foster care & for them to have been in multiple homes before they get to their "forever home". This creates another, what is called, secondary issue, for these children. Making their life more challenging yet.
Because Kiahna was adopted at birth and has been with us her entire life, she does not exhibit much in the symptoms of attachment disorder. (although I do believe every adopted child has some of the issues, so I won't say she has none).
One of the key elements to helping a child with FASD is praising them for things and giving them confidence. Which lowers their frustrations (because I am not always telling her what she's doing wrong) And makes our home more pleasant. Many children with FASD/Attachment issues, have difficulty accepting this. Kiahna does not. She soaks it up and the instruction that I have gotten to increase the praise is making large differences in our home life!
Thankful for small victories!
Lots to learn, lots to remember, lots of frustrations to overcome each day.
One comment that was made hit me pretty hard. One parent did an experiment with their child. Counted how many times they had to give instruction on a simple, self care task before their child remembered to do the task without being told. Anyone with me want to guess the number?
What that does for me to have this knowledge. It opens my eyes. It lowers my expectations. It lowers my frustration. And it lowers hers.
I haven't counted, but we may be over 600 in some areas. Like, please don't pick up the dog. Ya, that.
Nothing about this is easy. But, with this new support, it's becoming better in some ways.
Hope it continues.
Some big changes around here came this week.
When Z dropped the word some friends had said that he could move into the rental house with them.
He moved out that day (This past Tuesday).
From my perspective, it's not a good environment. It's frustrating & it's not what I would have chosen.
But, my perspective is often very controlling and can't see the whole picture. So, I am in another challenge to trust God with Z & not worry.
I confess, it's made our home more peaceful. It's less stressful here when he isn't home. That makes me so sad to admit.
Keep Praying for Z, would you please.
I have been spending my "extra time" trying to do some things that I don't get to do the rest of the year, like painting, cleaning, organizing. I think I'd rather be "working" ha!
Snow Photo sessions are in high demand! I have a list, I hope to get some of those knocked off with this recent snow, looks like the kids are going to school today! Hope everyone is safe!
In His Grip,